GET OUT FROM UNDER MY SKIN!!!!!!!

Do you ever find that people around you really irk you?  Like they have an instruction manual on how to get under your skin?  

I know that in my life I currently have three people who do stuff that make me see red.  I get angry, frustrated and annoyed just thinking about what it is that they do to make me crazy.  
I was thinking about that this morning and I realized that there is a common denominator in all of these situations.  Can you guess what it is?  Want a hint?  It is me.  

These individuals are just reacting to a situation and doing the very best that they can in that present moment.  They are not purposely trying to make me annoyed/irritated/angry.  They quite possibly are feeling the same way themselves.  So it is my job to figure out what they are triggering in me.  Perhaps someone in my past always reacted in a similar way.  And I need to revisit that memory, send it love and forgive myself and the event.  

One person likes to play the role of the victim.  It is always someone else's fault that their life is turning out the way that it is.  They live to play the blame game.  This annoys me.  Especially when they are blaming me.  LOL.  Do you ever have a person like this in your life?  Where they just refuse to take responsibility for anything?  Does it make you crazy?  Do you ever just want to grab them by the shoulders and shake them?  That is how I would like to react.  Going forward what I am going to do is show them love and patience.  I recognize that they are in victim mode.  That does not mean that I need to switch into that mode with them.  I can stand in my strength and help them negotiate the situation or at least not fuel their flame.  And when I get home, I can look for areas in my life where I have lived in the role of the victim.  I can remember how it felt to act that way.  I can send love to the person I once was.  And I can forgive myself for how I acted then.  That wasn't my true self that was showing up in that moment.  

Another person who irritates my ego is the know it all. The person who likes to argue with me on the topic I know the most about it.  I don't get why they do it.  It is crystal clear that I know more than they do.  Why are they still talking?  LOL.  Can you tell that they offend my ego?  When I step back from this situation I am able to see that this triggers a part in me that was once not heard.  Where I voiced my opinion and the other party was not willing to listen.  I felt that I was not heard.  My ego wants to react in a way that would cause me to speak over top of them.  To be louder.  Because everyone knows the person who speaks the loudest is the one with the most intelligent thing to say.  LOL.  In an effort to let go of this trigger I will think of all of the times I felt I was not heard.  I will listen to what I was trying to say.  I will acknowledge the lesson.  And I will forgive myself and the situation.  I will also be more understanding whenever I come across the "know it all".

The third person hits me closest to home.  This person works hard to live up to everyone else's expectations of them.  And people aren't expecting many positive things from them.  So they are living up to stereotypes that move them further and further away from their true self.  I know what this is all about as I spent years living like that.  It hurts my heart to see them living this way.  I would love to wrap my arms around them and tell them that they are loved.  I believe in them.  They can and will do amazing things.  They just need to learn to love themselves rather than seek love and acceptance from outside.  Their actions trigger me because I am still forgiving myself.  And that is okay because we are all works in progress.

Moving forward I will do my best to let my true self show up in every situation.  And if for some reason it is my ego that appears then I will debrief the day with my true self and see where I have work to do.  Do all things with love and you will see the best outcomes.  At the end of the day...it all works out the way it should benefiting our greatest good.  Rest easy believing in that.  

Holding all of you in Love and Light.

Much Love,

Lisa