I have had the pleasure of seeing my own examples of the amazing ways of the Universe. We all have parts of our life that we are not proud of. Things we have done or not done things that lurk in the deep crevices of our mind. I have two of these. The mere mention of these two things can send my heart rate skyrocketing. I get angry, defensive, short of breath and panicked. If my Dear husband inadvertently even gets close to one of these topics he shields himself from me. I don't blame him. I morph into this person that closely resembles Medusa or something equally attractive. This is now a conditioned response much like Pavlov's dogs. Although my conditioning came from fear that exists only in my own mind.
I avoided these two subjects like the plague. To the point where if a person was to bring them up I would physically flee the room, not caring about how this may look to others. Recently a shift started to happen - albeit a small one. My clients started to speak to me about this same topics. I couldn't very well run from the room in the middle of a coaching session. Not only was I able to listen to them speak of these issues but I was able to provide valuable feedback and solutions. I would also start to share with them my stories. Communicating that it was understandable that they were feeling the shame, discomfort, anxiety and fear associated with these situations.
The more that I talked about these things - the more people I realized were in the exact same boat. Those that were not in the same situation as me always had the same incredulous look on their face when I mentioned it. A look completely unbelieving that I would let an issue so small completely overtake an area of my life. This made me start to realize something that I already knew but was entirely unwilling to apply to this area of my life. Fear exists ONLY in our mind.
We as an individual feed that fear. We spend time and energy on thoughts that feed this fear. We lie in bed at night tossing and turning and thinking of the worst case scenarios that will come from this situation or circumstance. What happens when you feed something - it grows. Our response to the growing fear is to spend more time and energy on this fear - whether it is keeping us up at night or even just energy trying to avoid the possibility of encountering this fear. The more we do this the more paralyzing it becomes.
We can find ourselves on this downward spiral. Soon all areas of our life become affected. Work doesn't go smoothly, business goes downhill, relationships suffer, stress levels increase and health fails. All of this because we are trapped in this cycle of feeding the fear. When we give our thoughts and energy towards something we attract more of that into our lives.
It is possible to interrupt this cycle but it takes effort and energy on your behalf. You need to adjust your thoughts - start focusing them in a different direction. You will find that if you stop focusing on this fear and putting energy into the things that bring you joy, solutions will begin to appear.
The Universe provides you with exactly what you need at precisely the right time. An example of this happened just the other day with me. Remember me mentioning earlier about one of my fears? Well I was mentioning it to one of my clients/friends. Told them that I was finally ready to deal with this situation. That I had looked into one possible solution and that I needed to gain some momentum. He immediately responded asking me if I was open to other possible solutions. I said yes even though I was wondering what alternate solution he could possibly have aside from fleeing the country. As it turns out his Mom is an expert in this area and she was happy to help me out because it offered her a way to say thank you for all of my efforts assisting her family. This was a huge reinforcement that life always turns out as it should. The Universe will provide you with exactly what you need at the precisely the right time the instant you are open to it.
To some of you this may seem like a coincidence or a froofroo idea but to me this is truth and I find comfort in knowing that by trusting in something larger than myself - All is well.
I wish you the very best that life has to offer you.
Lead Life Joyfully
Much Love,
Lisa
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